Chronicle 2

If I could speak to you like a grandmother would talk to the daughter of her offspring I would say: Baby I love you. And if I were to fetch bouts of wisdom from these wellsprings of the love I have towards you I’d tell you – give yourself time.

No.
Do not give him time to make a decision about your lives.

Rather, give yourself time to nurture every beautiful aspect that I see in you. Celebrate that youthful lustre that defines your personality. Give yourself time to master all these talents, skills and knowledge that God has deposited in you. Give yourself time to muster all the gains thereafter… Muster the focus that comes from repetition. Muster the discipline that comes from practice. Muster the revenue that comes with perfection and value of your beautiful beautiful mind and, the work of the hands. Give yourself time to understand who you really are.

Deuteronomy 28:12 And the LORD will bless ALL the works of thine hands.

Muster this place life has positioned you, to experience life. Enrich your life. Explore your culinary skills, see what you can throw down with purpose and time on your hands. Use your money to purchase the things that you have always longed for. Buy that Television screen that is larger than life. Buy that sofa and position the seat in that corner that you love SO much – Mark it as yours and yours alone! See God for who He is in this season, Your Provider. Travel. Explore. Meet those people who have always thought you are worlds apart. Sit with them. Eat with them. Love on them. Live. At intervals, invite people in. Let your house be known as a House of Answered Prayers.

No.
Do not wait for him to pick up the call and reach out for you. Do not wait for him to make a decision about the direction where you two are headed.

Rather, give yourself time to see people for who they really are. Give yourself time to forgive. Give yourself time to understand what forgiveness means to you. Does it mean letting the offense go? Does it mean letting the offense and the offender go? Does it mean that you need to hit the reset button and give yourself another chance for a thousand more lessons ahead? Give yourself time to understand the people and things you can tolerate and that which you cannot condone. Give yourself time to understand the things that will fit you.

Yes.
He might call you one day with words you’ve longed desired to hear.

But, whether or not this day comes, this moment is not about him. It is about you. Instead of building on a fantasy of what y’all can be about… Learn. Look at him. See what betrayal and hurt can destroy a person. Understand the fragility of trust. See how disorientation wastes an intelligent mind. See the frontiers people adorn themselves thinking they are shutting others out only to find themselves in – alone. Sad. Purpose to be a better person.

Isaiah 34:16 asserts that none shall be without a partner (especially if this is the desire of your heart)

But, what is it that you purpose to bring into marriage. It is said that marriages brings a lot of things and insecurities into the surface. Thus, it is important – mandatory even, that you are whole and secure first as an individual, in who you are in Christ before bring a.n.y.o.n.e. else into the equation. In the Garden of Eden, God created a single Adam first, before He, of all praise, brought Eve in.

Give yourself time to understand the things and opportunities that God is exposing to you first as an individual, before you are a couple. Give yourself time to be whole, secure, rich, loving, ambitious, hardworking, intelligent, talented and everything you have been called to be as the Proverbs 31 woman in this generation.