Genesis 3:16

I have just learned something NOW… I went preaching to my workmates and thought this could be educating to someone out there SO I will put it down.

In the words Genesis 3:16:

Did you know that the curses accorded to a woman was

i.                     A great multiplication to the child bearing process and,

ii.                   A desire FOR your husband, who shall rule over you?

For the longest time, I thought this desire ‘for’ thing was that innate sentiment girls/ women have longing for their significant others like: ‘Why hasn’t he called me?’, ‘Why hasn’t he responded to my texts?’, ‘Will he call me?’, ‘Did he find me desirable?’, etc.  Turns out, there is a GOOD reason for me to study the bible and explore its teachings.

The New Living translation Bible elucidates that word “FOR” as: The desire to CONTROL your husband. The English Standard Version Bible expounds this word ‘FOR’ as: The desire to be CONTRARY to your husband.

So that desire For your husband is not just longing for him to love you/ pay attention to you/ provide for you; it is also refers to that need to control and be contrary to him! This gives the latter part of this curse even much MORE sense in that regardless of how strongly we, as wives/ girlfriends/ suitors feel in controlling a relationship – it is the man who shall always in be control. He shall rule over.  

For women, this punishments may feel unfair, harsh even. For men, this curse might seem empowering. It might pamper your ego even. But did you know that a family that has a wife who is always contrary to their husband, or always attempting to control their husband is a family operating in a System of TOIL just like a family that has a husband who is always domineering and commanding?

YES! Your family is operating in a system of Toil (the curse pronounced in Eden) if you are constantly Ruling OVER your wife. In Ephesians 5:25: Husbands are COMMANDED to LOVE their wives just LIKE CHRIST loves the church. A man who LOVES his wife, is a man that is operating in a System of Grace (Salvation). Women, on the other hand, are commanded to submit. It is important to note that submission for a wife, or submission in the family is not that feeling one has when they are held by their necks and forced to kiss feet. No. It is also important to note that women were never commanded to LOVE, their husband.

Love is the responsibility of a man. A man should love a woman so well/ so much that her submission looks like love. It easy to submit to a man who truly cares about you/ is truly attentive to your needs. For instance, it is easy for a wife to hug/ kiss her husband when he arrives home or prepare his favorite meals and wash his feet/ run his bath IF the husband, is the type of man who has constantly put her as his point of attraction, if he has pampered her and cherished…. This my friend, is what is referred to as “The System of Grace”.